Personal Bloggin' bc #Labels

Y'all. I've decided that I don't fit in. 

I don't really consider myself a clean-cut lifestyle blogger. And I'm far from a fashion blogger. 

I've noticed that it's way more natural for me to talk about topics off the top of my head without labeling myself. Recently, I attended the first Charleston Black Girl Bloggers Brunch, and it felt good to be surrounded by a blogging community of women who looked like me. For the longest time, I thought that I had to fit into one of those preexisting categories, but each of the ladies present was doing something to make blog genres their own.

I've been going through a lull with my blogging thanks to balancing school, starting a small business, and working a full-time job. But after the brunch I felt inspired to blog again on my own terms. To write about what I want, without trying to fit myself into a box. Whether it's food, the current book I'm reading, or a dope event that I wanna invite you all to, I'm vowing to just WRITE. I'll likely be adding some new categories to the search page, but stay tuned. Your girl is getting back in the game. 


Why Emotional Check-ins are Important for Black Women

The concept of "Community over Competition" goes against everything we've ever been taught. In environments rampant with misogynoir, we're often told that other black women are meant to be our rivals. It's an unspoken law that we must never be vulnerable. We're taught that only some of us are worthy of success and that we must take what we can get at the end of the day. 

That way of thinking got old for me so quickly. 

Who do I turn to the most for support with ventures like this blog or starting the journey of graduate school? OTHER BLACK WOMEN. I look to you all because you know exactly what it's like to feel as if you're working three times as hard for minimal payoff while others are recognized for simply breathing. Many of us come from a culture where showing emotion doesn't exist, and one where you'd take care to never utter the word "depression" and think that anyone will take you seriously. I surround myself with women who won't dismiss me with "Just pray," because sometimes I just need to be heard.

My emotional check-ins look like a weekly get-together surrounded by food and beverages with my amazing friend Andrea over at Motherland Essentials. We talk about our weeks, relationships, and the tone-deaf interactions we encounter in mostly-white spaces. Check-ins don't HAVE to be "How are you feeling today?" Ours look like tables full of food and laughing about how the only shape we'll ever get into is round (you all can thank Andrea for that clever line via late night text thread). Sometimes a black woman just needs to vent without the societal and cultural pressure of maintaining a wall of strength against everything thrown in her direction. 

Good food. Good drinks. Good vibes. Good life.

Good food. Good drinks. Good vibes. Good life.

How often do you check up on the black women in your life? Let me know in the comments below!